相聚與分離皆是緣Gatherings & Farewells Are Just Affinity At Play

有首歌的歌詞，相當有意思，特恭錄之以勉勵大家，早日看清這「緣」字，打開心門讓陽光照進來，雨過天晴，清清朗朗。歌中唱到：別管以後將如何結束，至少我們曾經相聚過。吾認為這兩句歌詞，實足以撫平親朋戚友的「離去」，以及夫妻與情侶，緣盡分離的內心創傷。利益眾生的方法，就是佛法。這首歌的作詞人，在不知不覺中，也就行了「菩提」。大家不妨仿效之，創作一首解壓的歌曲，比如，當我們同在一起，真快樂無比……

玳瑚師父如何面對生離死別之苦

生離死別，是世間的眾苦之一。吾，玳瑚師父，早已「領教」過這一苦。那是不是從今以後，吾再也不會經歷這種苦呢？答案是，不是的。我們祇要一天還有世緣，依然還是會碰到這種苦。就拿吾來說吧！時至今日，吾也還不是得飽受徒弟與學生的叛離。這其實也是一種「生離死別」啊！走過某間咖啡屋，走過某間餐館，走過某個地方，似乎有隻形影不離的榔頭，欲悄悄地敲痛吾的心，痛苦一般可見。但還好，吾是一位實修的行者，除去七情六欲，是吾一生的功課。傷過、痛過、哭過，更能引領廣大眾生，邁進康莊大道。

善緣逆緣，如何停止一切因果

妳你與三兩好友，正想合資做生意，什麼時候開業，什麼時候結業，在妳你們的八字裡，已有「伏藏」的密碼。當中當然不祇這些八字裡的「伏藏」，亦含蓋身體的健康指數，富貴與貧賤，丁貴與否，夫妻有否百夜恩，等等。那為何一個人的八字能夠「顯示」這麼多的資訊呢？有句成語說得極是，那就是：若要人不知，除非己莫為。我們所做的一切，就是一因子，因緣俱足下，就成了果。

在真正學佛人的眼裡，來討債的也好，來報恩的也好，善緣也好，逆緣也罷！隨她他來，隨她他去，這樣心才能普空寂，一切的因因果果，亦才能停止。心即是明鏡台，此時就如《金剛經》裡的無我相、無人相、無眾生相、無壽者相，一切明明白白，正如大日照破無明。但，現今的妳你，必需要有相聚與分離皆是緣的基礎心念。

There is a verse in a song which I find particularly meaningful, and I would like to share it with everyone as a form of encouragement. I hope you will finally see clearly the true meaning of affinity and open up your heart to let in the rays of the sun, forming a clarity as clear and bright as the after-rain. In the song, one verse reads, “It does not matter how it might end in the future, at least we were together once.” In my opinion, this verse is fully capable of soothing any grief and hurt from the departure of a family member or friend, as well as the emotional pain and sorrow from the breakup of a marriage or relationship. The Dharma is present in all things beneficial for the sentient beings. The lyricist of this song has inadvertently performed a deed of compassion. Everyone can learn from him, and compose similar songs that relieve sufferings. For example, “When we get together, how merry we all are…”

How Master Dai Hu handles separation in life & death

Separation between loved ones in life or death is one of the sufferings for all sentient beings. Master Dai Hu has long experienced this suffering. Does it mean that from now on, I am not going to live through this suffering again? The answer is NO. As long as we are still connected by affinity to this world, we are bound to encounter this suffering. Take myself for example, I had to live through the agony of the betrayal of disciples and students. This is also a kind of separation suffering! Walking past a certain coffee house, a certain restaurant, a certain place, there seemed to be an invisible hammer hitting my heart silently and painfully. Fortunately, I am a true practitioner, with a lifetime mission to rid myself of the seven emotions and six desires. After the hurt, pain and tears, I am more equipped to lead all sentient beings and forge ahead, onto the glorious Path.

How you can cease all karmic entanglements

When you and a couple of friends strike upon a new business idea, the key to the crucial questions of when to start the business, when to exit, etc, are already hidden in the birth charts of your partners and yourself. Of course, there are more hidden information in a birth chart: indicators concerning your health, wealth, descendants, marriage, etc. Why is it possible that a birth chart can reveal so much about oneself? I would like to share a well-said Chinese saying, “The best way to hide a misdeed is not to commit it.” Our every action is like a planting a seed which, under adequate conditions, shall ripen into the fruit.

In the eyes of a true Buddhist practitioner, it makes no difference if a karmic debtor or a karmic benefactor appears, be it a kindred affinity or a difficult one, let it all rest! They can come and go as they like. Only in this state of mind can the mind be unbound and unattached. Only this enlightened state can put an end to the unrelenting causes and effects. When enlightened, your heart is like a mirror, as put forth in the Diamond Sutra, that do not abide in the notion of self, person, sentient being and life span. Everything becomes crystal clear, like the rays of the Sun that have fully penetrated the darkness of ignorance. But at this moment in time, you must have this basic foundation to realise that all gatherings and farewells are just but affinity.

In the eyes of a true Buddhist practitioner, it makes no difference if a karmic debtor or a karmic benefactor appears. Be it a kindred affinity or a difficult one, let it all rest! They shall come and go as they like. Only in this state of mind can the mind be unbound and unattached. Only this enlightened state can put an end to the unrelenting causes and effects. When enlightened, your heart is like a mirror, as put forth in the Diamond Sutra, that does not abide in the notion of self, person, sentient being and life span. Everything becomes crystal clear, like the rays of the Sun that have fully penetrated the darkness of ignorance. But at this moment in time, you must have this basic understanding that all gatherings and farewells are just affinity at play.