為愛往前飛 Flying Ahead For Love

年少時，曾有親情、友情及愛情的憧憬。嚴格來說，不祇是憧憬而已，當中還包括尋覓，及引頸的期盼。那結果如何？答案老早在近二十年前，已有揭曉。此話何解？吾，玳瑚師父，自認是一名「情癡」。若當年的憧憬、尋覓、期盼有了「結果」，今天又何來的玳瑚師父呢？所謂的「情癡」，她他一定是重情之人，方能配得上「情癡」這兩個字呀！那麼另外一種「情癡」的特性，也一定將其全部精神及金錢，投在其親情、友情、愛情上啊！

 

吾會不會後悔沒結婚？

當年的吾還未修行，即執又迷的，一定選擇成家立業，多過於弘法利生、玄學利生呀！若妳你問吾會不會，因為所謂的人生一大块，沒有得成，而心裡產生「不平衡」，吾老老實實地回應妳你，真的不會。因為，在這近二十年的參研與實修佛法中，佛光神光的加被，洗滌了吾累世的「塵埃」，使得吾身心愈來愈清明，得以覺醒於，這世俗人間的大夢及大幻，認清什麼才是真正的真愛與大愛，做個真正「實在」與「實際」的人，不再「夢遊」。

 

最恩愛的夫妻，可能就是最不孝順的子女！

這麼多年來，緣現於吾眼前的對對夫妻中，談得上「恩愛」的，幾乎是零。緣現於吾眼前的戶戶人家中，談得上「孝順」的，更是甭談了。至於友情中的「莫逆之交」，也幾乎是一種傳說而已。利用來利用去的，出賣來出賣去的，比比皆是啊！就算真有恩愛的一對，她他們的恩，她他們的愛，也祇有她他們倆的世界而已，勸請她他們為死去的爸媽、水子靈、祖先及其他親屬，謀取真實的福利，一個一個就開始「臉露難色」，心不甘情不願的。難怪有「養兒煩惱」這句話。不是吾要嚇妳你，這宇宙間真的有「循環」的。

曾有好幾位女客人，問吾有否女朋友，結婚沒，問後還似乎替吾「不值」。印象中，也有認為吾若去出家，實在可惜啊！原來色狼是無男女之分的，哈……。讓吾，玳瑚師父，告訴妳你「真相」吧！真正的「愛」，真正的「情」，是無論發生了什麼事，都不會變掛的。知恩，受恩，遇恩，都應圖報，不該有分別心。更何況，施比受更有福，以及幫人其實就是在幫自己啊！這種才是超凡的愛，超凡的情，就讓我們一起為愛往前飛吧！

 

 

 

When I was young, I often hoped for close kinships, warm friendships and romantic relationships. Strictly speaking, it was not just merely a hope. There were also constant searching and forlorn pining. What happened in the end? I have gotten the answer 20 years ago. What do I mean by that? I am a self-confessed love-aholic. If my hopes, search and pining had gotten me positive results, would there be a Master Dai Hu today? A person obsessed with love treats his or her relationships very seriously. Another characteristic is that he will devote all his energy and money to his relationships – kinship, friendships and romantic relationships!

 

Do I regret not getting married?

During those years before I began my spiritual cultivation, I was so fixated and adamant that I would have chosen to establish a career and set up a family of my own, and forgone the path of propagating the Dharma and Chinese Metaphysics to benefit sentient beings! If you are to ask me if I felt any regret or emotional imbalance for not achieving the typical major milestones of life like a career or marriage, I can honestly tell you no. Because in my past twenty years of researching and practicing the Dharma, I have been empowered by the Buddhas and Gods, cleansing me of the filth and grime accumulated from past lives. My body and soul became clear and pristine and awaken to the fact that everything in this world is a big dream and illusion. I have learnt what genuine and universal love is. I no longer sleepwalk and have became a person who lives every moment awakened with positive intent.

 

The most loving couple may be the most unfilial children!

All these years, almost none of those couples whom I had the affinity to meet, can be described as truly loving towards each other. And an even lesser number are truly filial to his or her parents. As for friendships that endure the test of time and character, they have almost became a myth! Nowadays it is all about self interest, betrayal and taking advantage of each other. Even if a couple is truly loving, their love and gratitude are only reserved for each other in their own little world. When asked to fight for merits for their deceased parents, fetal spirits, ancestral spirits or other family relations, their faces change and their reluctance shows. No wonder there is a saying that says raising a child would only bring you future worries and troubles. I do not mean to frighten you, but in this Universe, things come in a cycle – what goes around comes around.

Once, several female clients asked me if I had a girlfriend or if I was married. When they heard my reply, they sort of felt a sense of injustice for me. In my memory, some of them had expressed that it would be a great pity if I had entered monkhood. Well, you can see now that a lecher can be either a man or woman. Ha ha ha! Let Master Dai Hu tell you the Truth now! True love is immutable. True love is unconditional. True love is always grateful and seeks to reciprocate. Furthermore, it is more blessed to give than to receive. Helping others is actually helping ourselves! Such is the real definition of extraordinary true love. True love, transcends the ordinary. Let us all forge ahead in the name of love!